The holiday season is a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness.
However, for many Australians over 50, the reality can be quite different. The festive period can be a mix of emotions, and not all of them are merry and bright. Commonly called the ‘holiday blues’, this feeling is a legitimate concern that can dampen the spirits of even the most cheerful individuals.
Psychiatrist Dr Anna Costakis describes the holiday blues as ‘feelings of sadness, isolation, low energy or motivation, or feeling out of sorts during the holidays’. It is unlike clinical depression, which psychologist Dr Vanessa Kennedy states ‘involves a more extended period of time with a cluster of depressive symptoms that can significantly affect our functioning’.
What triggers holiday blues?
Several factors can contribute to the onset of the holiday blues:
- Unrealistic expectations: The pressure to create a perfect holiday experience can be overwhelming, leading to disappointment and sadness when reality falls short.
- Overcommitment: Endless social events, gift shopping, and family gatherings can exhaust individuals.
- Family dynamics: Time spent with family can be stressful, especially if there are unresolved conflicts. The absence of a loved one due to passing can also intensify grief.
- Self-reflection: The holidays often prompt self-reflection, which can be distressing if one’s life circumstances don’t align with personal aspirations or societal standards.
- Loneliness: Being away from family and friends during the holidays can worsen feelings of isolation.
- Financial stress: The commercialisation of the season and the associated costs can lead to financial strain and anxiety.
- Routine disruption: Changes in diet, sleep, and exercise routines, coupled with longer daylight hours, can negatively affect mood and energy levels.
Who is susceptible to the holiday blues?
Individuals with pre-existing mental health challenges may be more prone to experiencing the holiday blues. However, it’s important to recognise that anyone can be affected, regardless of their mental health history.
Managing the holiday blues
To combat the holiday blues, consider the following strategies:
- Set boundaries: Know your limits, and don’t be afraid to say no to activities that will overextend you.
- Learn from the past: Reflect on previous holiday experiences and make adjustments to avoid repeating stressors.
- Keep your daily routine: Stick to your regular habits as much as possible to maintain a sense of normalcy.
- Talk about your feelings: Open up to trusted friends or family members about how you’re feeling.
- Limit social media time: Reduce exposure to idealised holiday portrayals that can worsen feelings of inadequacy.
- Have a budget: Plan your spending carefully to avoid financial stress.
- Have realistic expectations: Prioritise activities and traditions that bring you genuine happiness.
- Plan: Schedule activities that reduce stress, such as exercise, and look forward to events after the holiday season.
When to seek help
If the holiday blues persist beyond the festive period or begin to interfere with your daily life, it may be time to seek professional help. Persistent feelings of sadness or a significant change in mood or behaviour warrant attention from a mental health professional.
The holiday blues are a common experience that can affect anyone. Recognising the signs and understanding the triggers can help you navigate the season more easily. By managing expectations, maintaining healthy routines, and seeking support when needed, you can prioritise your mental health and find joy in the holiday season.
How about you, dear readers, have you ever had the holiday blues? Share your experiences and coping strategies in the comments below. Let’s support each other and make this holiday season a time of genuine connection and self-care.
Also read: How to prevent burnout in the lead-up to Christmas.
