YourLifeChoices members, like so many travellers, are looking for a transformative travel experience. They want something to come home and tell their friends and family about.
I wonder how many would be up for a holiday at a swingers’ resort?
Okay, so, this provocative lifestyle choice isn’t for everyone. For others, it’s about satisfying curiosity. I admit, I’m not sure I’d ever go to a swingers’ resort or party, but I am definitely interested in how they work and what goes on. I mean …
According to travel website Oyster, swingers’ resorts have a high run of repeat guests often acquainted with one another from past visits. New guests are also warmly welcomed.
If you are (or a friend is 😉) interested in attending a swingers’ resort, here’s what you’d need to consider beforehand.
Firstly, you’ll need a clear understanding of the rules of consent. You’ll also need to stick rigidly to those rules. While everyone may be there for a bit of fun, it doesn’t give you blanket consent.
Most resorts will require you to ask permission before you touch anyone. Respect and boundaries matter as much here as anywhere else.
While curiosity may be a major driver of getting you into the resort, consider if your curiosity can stand the test of reality at a swingers’ resort.
The open-mindedness at these resorts often opens you up to diverse situations. This demands tolerance and acceptance of all types of couples and their preferred styles. Wishing to be in a sexually charged environment can differ significantly from the actual experience.
Comfort with multiple sex acts and continuous nudity is a pre-requisite. You must also be open to witnessing intimate moments, possibly even being asked to participate, without passing judgment.
Be sure you’re ready to experience this without feeling or causing discomfort.
You’ll also need to respect the privacy of your fellow swingers. Many participants keep their swinger lifestyles covert, even going to lengths to inform family and friends they are visiting a different resort.
If you’re part of a couple, the decision to visit a swingers’ resort should be mutual. Your expectations, understanding, importance and anticipated experiences should be discussed ahead of time, as this experience could really affect your relationship dynamics for better or possibly worse.
Talking beforehand will help you to help each other.
Establish rules and boundaries in advance. Things can escalate quickly at a swingers’ resort, so it’s recommended to know your (and your partner’s) limits and preferences. Clear guidelines can limit disagreeable outcomes.
Communication is key to conveying wants, needs, concerns and manoeuvring through potentially heightened emotions and jealousy.
Lastly, it’s important to remember swinging is not a ‘one-size-fits-all’ experience, and no one should feel compelled to partake if they aren’t keen.
Some find thrill in the liberating, non-judgmental atmosphere without intending to swing at all, while for some others, only one partner actively participates. Discover what dynamic best fits your relationship.
All in all, visiting a swingers’ resort is about consent, open-mindedness, respect, communication, and of course, fun.
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This article is part of a series of ‘out there’ travel experiences. Maybe you’d like to learn more about alternative travel experiences? If so, let us know by emailing [email protected] and we’ll do our best to cover them!
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